These are your body’s ‘non-verbal communications’ that are telling you something – clues that something’s amiss and a cue to do something – or at very least pause, stop and think about what’s going on for you and what to do, now or later.

Whilst we may think or believe we’re OK, our body often tells us otherwise via a combination of a variety of physical, behavioural, cognitive, emotional change indicators which we may or may not be aware of, or pay attention to. You might just be having ‘one of those days’, although still worth paying attention to, especially if ‘those days’ are ongoing.

As a rider, you have this skill. After all, you get to know your horse’s character, what’s their norm and what’s not, their patterns, triggers for certain behaviours.

You recognise temperament, habit, and attitude changes, or they’re behaving ‘out of character’.

You ‘spot’ they’ve not eaten up, dropped weight, changes in bodily functions or they seem ‘out of sorts’, tense, anxious, fidgety, non-compliant, or the opposite, compliant, quiet!

You get to know that Paddy’s fine being left alone in the horsebox whereas Juno isn’t. Chevron is feisty so when he’s quiet, something’s up. Poppy sweats up at competitions but is so straightforward, whereas Amber appears calm but is actually a bag of nerves, very flighty and needs sympathetic handling.

So if you are able to recognise their indicators, you can get to know yours so you can recognise your signs and take any appropriate action, sooner rather than later, or not at all.

Can you identify any of yours yet?

Make a conscious effort to gift yourself these moments whether at home or work.

They may be ordinary or extraordinary moments, active, still or quiet moments, alone or with friends, family. They may be inspired by a thought, a person, a cherished memory or reminder of something we hold dear.

As a rider, it makes sense to use your surroundings and the horses as ideal opportunities for these moments. Whether as a professional or pleasure rider, simply being present with the horses, your dogs, your surroundings, in whatever activity – grooming, a lovely hack, a training session – can all become time that’s just yours.

You can utilise times where you’re waiting for something too. For instance while waiting for your next class, the lorry to fill with diesel, the farrier to finish, your friend to tack up.

These ‘waiting’ moments can become a ‘mini-break’ instead of perhaps getting frustrated they’re not happening quickly enough! These self-gift moments re-fresh, re-energise, can simply lift spirits and help you unwind momentarily.

Setting aside specific time to yourself for any task or activity such as your admin and calls, or finding a quiet place to prepare for a competition, can become your quiet time.

What might, or could, your quiet time be?

A Danish word pronounced ‘hue-gah’, is the latest trend, for acknowledging a feeling or moment, as cosy, snug, charming or special, of enjoying life’s simple pleasures. It’s more about atmosphere and experience, rather than about things.

For example: If you’ve ever enjoyed reading a book indoors on a rainy day, watching your favourite film with friends, a cup of hot chocolate on a cold, miserable day, you’ve probably experienced ‘hygge’.

Here’s 5 suggestions, that can be useful in the non- equestrian working environments too:

Bring a mug from home. Have one in the yard tea-room perhaps. Having another in the horsebox for when you’re away overnight(s) can be comforting too. Take time to enjoy ‘tea and talk’ and give your brain a break! Useful in non-equestrian working environments too.

Have a playlist. Music does wonders for the mind. Select your favourites, or meaningful tunes whichever works for you. It’s portable too so will help at home, at the yard, when travelling, at shows etc. or in the office while doing admin or in a non-equestrian working environment. Some yards play music for the horses – it’s good for us too.

Sit and eat your lunch rather than eat ‘on the go’. Have a breather whilst you eat and it’s better for your digestion too! Avoid planning your next task/job while eating and practice not looking at ‘phones or social media. Instead, focus on your food; what you’re eating, drinking, using all your senses to experience it eg. what it looks, smells, tastes, feels like. Focus and be in the moment rather than thinking about what you’re doing next! 

Personalise things or places. For example your area of the tack room, your coat/tack hook, grooming bag, or lorry cab, with something meaningful, sentimental from your personal life eg a photo, a key ring. Perhaps use a special pen(s) when updating the yard calendar with events, competitions, vets/farrier visits, etc. Having some sort of personal item that is special/unique for you, can make a difference. Eg stock pin, lapel badge.

Horses and your surroundings. You might often experience ‘hygge’ without realising! Times when you’re ‘lost in the moment’, perhaps quietly waiting with a horse in between classes, the sound of contented munching as you do your night time check, the sun on your back on a lovely summer’s day.

Think about what’s your moment. 

It’s the art of being present. Times when your mind-is-full, 100% focused in the moment – there’s nothing else. 

It can be a useful technique to help with stress, anxiety and depression enabling ‘switching off’ moments from what is going on around you, tuning in to the ‘here and now’. According to modern research, mindfulness:

Down-regulates fight/flight and freeze activity stimulated often by stress, stressful situations, by decreasing the release of cortisol, the stress hormone. Lower levels of cortisol are linked with feeling calm, relaxed, content, peaceful yet with a fully focused brain as the decision-making part of the brain, the pre-frontal cortex, is not ‘blocked’ by excessive cortisol.

Up-regulates intuition, empathy and action. It gets you in touch with yourself, others and the environment, enabling you to respond skillfully and appropriately rather than habitually or your default response. 

Being outside in the natural world, with animals, with nature, activities, exercise, are proven great environments for achieving mindfulness moments.

One of the most underestimated and overlooked techniques we have. We all breathe! However, by paying attention to it, we can use it, alter it to affect/change how we feel, think, behave etc. Try these useful techniques:

One of the most underestimated and overlooked techniques we have. We all breathe! However, by paying attention to it, we can use it, alter it to affect/change how we feel, think, behave etc.

Try these useful techniques:

Let it go! If you find yourself holding your breath, breathe out, long and slow!!

The slow 7. Taking seven, slow, very deep, soft breaths. Focusing 100% on your breath is cited as a great calming technique for particularly stressful, anxious situations. Do not rush these; allow time to complete the cycles. You can do this to yourself or talk someone else through it.

4-4-4 technique. Breathe in to slow count of 4, hold for 4, breathe out for 4.

The paper bag alternative. It’s often said to hold a paper bag over our mouth and nose, if we’re in a state of panic, anxiety, taking very short quick breaths, getting light headed and dizzy. What happens is the excess oxygen in our body/bloodstream taken in by the quick, sharp, short breaths, gets neutralised by the carbon dioxide temporarily breathed in that builds up in the paper bag. 

However, a more practical way is to cup your hands or use a scarf and place over your nose and mouth. This has the same affect but is easier, more practical and, discreet. 
  

By simply adjusting or changing your posture, you can feel different, have a different impact or effect on others. 

As an employer/rider, you’ll know the impact of body language from working with horses, your own and theirs. How you are around them, your posture, body language, your way of being, whether working from the ground or on board, makes a difference, makes an impact on how they behave, respond etc.

When you’re leading them, do they walk in your space or maintain a polite distance?  Do they stay out on the lunge or come in to you, and vice versa? Do they approach you in the field or walk away?  Do they politely move round the stable or barge? How do they respond to your riding position and, your change of position? What’s the impact of your seat in a transition, or your posture when jumping?

A quick exercise:

sit/stand slumped, round shouldered, belly squashed, eyes downward.

Explore how you feel in that position for a minute or two. What words come to mind?

Then, sit/stand straight, lift up from under your ribs, shoulders gently back and down, feel the ground beneath your feet, head level, eyes forward.

Explore how you feel now.

Compare and contrast the two positions. Which one feels ‘better’? Which do you prefer?

Your body language via your posture, whether standing or sitting, makes a difference to you, your impact on, and others’ perception of you.
As it does on your horses, it will on the people around you! By simply adjusting or changing your posture, you can change a situation.
Take a look at Amy Cuddy, the international body language expert’s TED talk, including the ‘power pose’ – one of the most popular TED talks of all time.

What mood are you in?
Can you identify it?
Are you OK with it, or do you want to change it, and to what?
Is it affecting you/your work, others or even the horses?
How do we regulate, change, alter our mood?

As an employer and/or rider, you recognise horses’ moods…. ‘Oh, Harry’s in a right mood today!’ But what have you based your opinion on?

Transferring that observation skill to yourselves, acknowledging how you are, recognising any changes, thinking how you’d like to be – enables you to do something about it, if that’s what you’d like. 

One of the simplest, quickest and easiest techniques is to think or do something that makes you smile.
Your special thing – a memory, a place, inspirational quote, a loved one, song, event, ride that horse that makes you smile.

Smiling releases pleasure hormones called endorphins, natural painkillers and antidepressant hormones such as serotonin. Smiling reduces stress and boosts your immune system.

Smiling changes our physiology.

Give it a go and experience the difference it makes! Granted, openly smiling in certain situations may be inappropriate, but you can still smile inside – somehow it’s special.

And remember to have fun! It’s easy to forget when work absorbs so much of daily lives. Humour, laughter, smiling is a great stress reliever, and proven good for well-being.

Be aware of ‘Should, ought, must, got to’ language. They have a pressurising and limiting psychological effect. Change to would like, need, want, choose to, better to. These have an effect of putting us back in control, and sense of choice. Watch out for tone of your self-talk too, when it slips from encouraging, gently pushing to harsh, angry, driven.

Change ‘cope’ to ‘manage’. Although the definition of cope is ‘deal effectively with something difficult’ & ‘have the capacity to deal successfully with’, its sound, and physiological impact somehow has a positive/negative vibe. It has connotations with struggling, just about managing. ‘Managing’ has positive/positive affect, somehow sounds more uplifting – puts ourselves (back) in control. Try it!

Check out your own reactions to both words.
 
Remember choice – Often we think we have no choice, but what we’re indirectly focusing on is the consequence of the choice rather than the choice itself. Plus, sometimes things happen we have no control over, but we do have choice how we manage it.

No, not the fruit and veg kind! But your 5 things a day just for you.

What do you already do, or what could you do, to look after your minds – your well-being – your Self.  Often simpler and easier than you might think as you’re using what you already do/have differently.

For example:

1. Having a tea/coffee in your favourite mug
2. Mindfully grooming a horse, riding out, or any other stable job
3. Breathing exercise
4. Listening to music
5. A quick sensory ‘top to toe’ audit of yourself – any adjustments needed?
6. Remember your favourite quote, an inspirational person
7. Bath/shower using your favourite products
8. Wear those gloves/scarf a loved one bought you
9. Change your posture
10. A quick memory recall of something/someone/your favourite place to lift your spirits and make you smile
11. And so much more….